Please don’t be like Zoya

Dear Young (and young-at-heart) Girls,

These days, many of you are probably gushing about the sweet, selfless romance that Ranjhana is. Let me interrupt your sweet reveries and beg you for something. Please don’t be like Zoya.

“You mean, don’t be cruel and mean like her and break the heart of a sweet, innocent, selfless lover?”

No. I mean don’t be an idiot like her.

  1. Don’t fall for someone because they slash their wrists for you, even if you are a ninth-grader in Benaras. That’s idiotic and unhealthy. Even Zoya realized that it was childish.
  2. Don’t manipulate people. You wouldn’t want that to happen to you. So, don’t do it to anyone. It is mean. And for God’s sake, definitely don’t manipulate and use an obsessive stalker. It is dangerous. Don’t let him come within a mile of yourself. The movie didn’t show it to you, but stalkers can make your life hell. They can make you afraid of even stepping out of your home, they can throw acid at you, they can kill themselves and create social, legal, professional – all kinds of troubles for you, or they can harm you and your loved ones. Yes. I repeat. They can make your life hell. Don’t encourage them. Obsession, stalking is not passionate, selfless love.
  3. It is perfectly all right to break societal norms, if you believe in something. Marry across caste, class, religion, nation whatever you want. But don’t try to pass off a Hindu as a Muslim or vice versa. This is a country of honor killings. Be aware of it. Especially if you are from smaller towns, villages etc. And when you have an option of doing things at a place where you are safe, at a time when you are independent, please wait for that place and that time to do it. Or if you must have your family’s blessings, communicate with them, convince them, and wait till you get it. Don’t try to lie your way into doing brave things.
  4. Don’t use professional power to take personal revenge. And definitely don’t have a bomb blasted, and innocent people killed for that. Do I really need to tell that even to a dreamy girl in first love?

Keep dreaming. Just beware of the dreams that can turn into a nightmare, especially when you would have no one, but yourself to blame for that.

Stay brave, stay safe!

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About Jaya

Jaya Jha is an entrepreneur, a techie, a writer and a poet. She was born and brought up in various towns of Bihar and Jharkhand. A graduate of IIT Kanpur and IIM Lucknow, she realized early on that the corporate world was not her cup of tea. In 2008, she started, one of the first print-on-demand publishing platform in India. She currently lives in Bangalore and divides her time between writing and working on her company's latest product InstaScribe ( with a vision to make it the best e-book creation tool. Blog: Twitter: @jayajha Facebook:

2 thoughts on “Please don’t be like Zoya

  1. There are some old gems, “Anything extreme is bad” and “Never do anything with others which you don’t like to happen with yourself”. But when emotions are high who cares about all these. We only realize after seeing the consequence of our actions.

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