I was trying not to meddle with whatever they are doing, was trying to keep them peacefully away from me, but seeing their desperation to seek attention, I thought I would help them out a little. However, they will keep pulling their hair even after the help I am extending in the form of this post. Because I will not go for or against their group and movement. Why? A very simple reason. When you go for or against something, there is an assumption that there is some meat in the idea. There is none here. The stand I take after the (forced) interaction with all these self-proclaimed learned ladies and gentlemen is that what they are doing is irrelevant. Ah! Yes – I gave in you see. I took a stand finally 😀
Irrelevant because what is going to be achieved even if they are able to get the ultimate they are thinking of? There will no 498a. And then? Indian families will be saved, divorces will disappear and suddenly all the vile women of the world will become Sati-Savitris finding no 498a to support them??? I must appreciate the vision of Ram Rajya, but you know its a meaningless stand to take. If you have to solve the problem, go change the asymmetric, paternalistic system of the society. Why a girl is expected to leave the ways of her home (which she is accustomed to for more 20 years is most cases these days) and adjust to the ways of the pujya in-laws? Men do not have to do that. On the contrary, in the girls’ home all the whims of the damaad will be worshipped. The girl has to give in to the whims of the now her-everything sasuraal-waale. Its not a question of right or wrong. It does not matter whether or not it has come to oppression in the form of violence. Why is her individuality or her bringing up not valued at the level at that of the husband’s? Why does she have to get up at 5 in the morning just because her sasoo-maa has that habit, when for all her life before that she is used to getting up at 6.30? And without that she must be the vile one who is imposing the ways of her family on to the new one? Why? Of course, no such adjustments need to be made by the husband? Not even when he is in his sasuraal. And I can go on endlessly…
Go remove those asymmetries (and I would whole-heartedly support it), let the husband and wife be partners in the real sense of the word, without undue pressure on any of them to conform to the ways of the others’ family, let their not be a giver and a taker and you will have no reason to have a law like this, the question of misuse can never come at all. So long as the asymmetries are there, there will need to be such laws and there is no law in the world that has never been misused. Then do not cry foul if there are some cases of misuse. Fight them at individual level. Do not come and start calling people names for nothing. Do not put idiotic remarks about the people who had taken a bold step by forming the laws. Do not try to get the whole world to come after you for repealing the law.
Picking up a law and making all this halla over it, as if, repealing this law could bring all the peace to human-kind is childish, immature and meaningless. Hundreds of prisoners are spending years and years in Tihar jail for no fault of their own, because of the misuse of some law or the other, because of the slow judiciary. Shall we have a movement to do away with the constitution of India as well as the judiciary? Almost any sane person in the world would agree that Bush has misused his power and post by invading Iraq and causing the suffering of millions and millions. Shall we have a movement to remove the post of the President of the US?
We are not born in that simplistic a world, fortunately and unfortunately. So, I reiterate. What these people are trying to do is irrelevant.
Four posts will give enough commenting-space for the kids to do their उछल-कूद, right? 🙂 It’s obvious that I am sitting too jobless. However, I am moving on to more important matters now.
Technorati : IPC 498a, India, Society