Found this on the net –
Of course, certain points will depend on the context, and some might be exaggerated. Still, overall a nice comparison. And there is a reply to the most common critiques too –
Since I first compiled it, the list has been posted several times on internet discussion groups. Very helpfully, many people have suggested additions to the checklist. More commonly, of course, critics (usually, but not always, male) have pointed out men have disadvantages too – being drafted into the army, being expected to suppress emotions, and so on. These are indeed bad things – but I never claimed that life for men is all ice cream sundaes. Pointing out that men are privileged in no way denies that sometimes bad things happen to men.
In the end, however, it is men and not women who make the most money; men and not women who dominate the government and the corporate boards; men and not women who dominate virtually all of the most powerful positions of society. And it is women and not men who suffer the most from intimate violence and rape; who are the most likely to be poor; who are, on the whole, given the short end of patriarchy’s stick. As Marilyn Frye has argued, while men are harmed by patriarchy, women are oppressed by it.
Some of my favourites –
- I can be confident that my co-workers won’t think I got my job because of my sex – even though that might be true.
- If I am never promoted, it’s not because of my sex.
- If I fail in my job or career, I can feel sure this won’t be seen as a black mark against my entire sex’s capabilities.
- If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I’m even marginally competent.
- If I have children and pursue a career, no one will think I’m selfish for not staying at home.
- If I’m careless with my financial affairs it won’t be attributed to my sex.
- If I’m careless with my driving it won’t be attributed to my sex.
- I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial.
- I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called “crime” and is a general social concern. (Violence that happens mostly to women is usually called “domestic violence” or “acquaintance rape,” and is seen as a special interest issue.)
- The decision to hire me will never be based on assumptions about whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon.
- I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.